{"id":33,"date":"2017-10-28T13:30:49","date_gmt":"2017-10-28T17:30:49","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/projects.nyujournalism.org\/thenewsroom\/?p=33"},"modified":"2017-10-28T13:30:49","modified_gmt":"2017-10-28T17:30:49","slug":"interfaith-couples-independent-rabbis-fill-void-left-jewish-institutions","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/projects.nyujournalism.org\/thenewsroom\/2017\/10\/28\/interfaith-couples-independent-rabbis-fill-void-left-jewish-institutions\/","title":{"rendered":"For Interfaith Couples, Independent Rabbis Fill Void Left by Jewish Institutions"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>When Ashley Howard, 33, and Ramit Singh, 35, married in September, they had two ceremonies \u2013 one Jewish, one Hindu.<\/p>\n<p>Although they originally planned one ceremony combining customs from each religion, their parents did not approve of the arrangement.<\/p>\n<p>\u00a8They said, \u2018either have no tradition at all, or do it right,\u2019\u201d Howard said.<\/p>\n<p>The couple opted for tradition, with modern modifications. A priest conducted a Hindu ceremony in both Hindi and English. The Jewish ceremony was lead by Gloria Milner, an independent, Manhattan-based rabbi who is unaffiliated with a standard Jewish denomination.<\/p>\n<p>Rabbi Milner is one of more than a dozen independent Jewish clergy in the New York area who specialize in officiating for interfaith couples, according to TheKnot.com.\u00a0A majority of American Jews are married to someone outside the faith, according to a 2013 study by the <a href=\"http:\/\/www.pewforum.org\/2013\/10\/01\/chapter-2-intermarriage-and-other-demographics\/\">Pew Research Center<\/a>, and officiants like Rabbi Milner fill a void often left by traditional Jewish institutions.<\/p>\n<p>Orthodox and Conservative rabbis are not permitted to marry interfaith couples. Reform rabbis, who represent American Judaism\u2019s largest denomination, according to <a href=\"http:\/\/www.pewforum.org\/2013\/10\/01\/jewish-american-beliefs-attitudes-culture-survey\/\">Pew<\/a>, may do so at their own discretion. Just over half do, estimated Rabbi Hara Person, chief strategy officer at the Central Conference of American Rabbis.<\/p>\n<p>However, mainstream Judaism\u2019s reluctance to accept intermarriage has not stopped its prevalence.\u00a0The intermarriage rate rose every decade between 1970 and 2000, and stabilized at 58 percent between 2000 and 2013, according to <a href=\"http:\/\/www.pewforum.org\/2013\/10\/01\/chapter-2-intermarriage-and-other-demographics\/\">Pew<\/a>.<\/p>\n<p>A recent\u00a0<a href=\"http:\/\/jppi.org.il\/new\/en\/article\/english-raising-jewish-children-research-and-indications-for-intervention\/english-family-engagement-and-jewish-continuity-among-american-jews\/english-findings\/english-fewer-young-jews-are-married-to-jews\/#.Wcl3t9O\">analysis<\/a> released in June by the Jewish People Policy Institute utilizing Pew\u2019s data found that nearly three-quarters of married, non-ultra-orthodox Jews in their 30s have a non-Jewish spouse. That rate still holds true today, according to Steven M. Cohen, research professor of Jewish Social Policy at Hebrew Union College\u2013Jewish Institute of Religion.<\/p>\n<p>Rabbi Milner, who has been officiating for eight years, presides over about 20 weddings per year, and she estimated that 70 percent of the couples she officiates for are interfaith. She frequently co-officiates with clergy from other faiths.<\/p>\n<p>Several years ago, she conducted a ceremony combining Jewish and Greek Orthodox wedding traditions for a couple who had trouble finding a traditional officiant from either faith. She penned a blog about the ceremony after. \u201cI became this expert in Greek-Jewish weddings,\u201d she said, \u201cso a lot of people contacted me that had this same problem.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>Bill Kurry, an unaffiliated, independent rabbi based in Little Silver, NJ, has performed between 60 and 100 wedding officiations per year since he began officiating 10 years ago, three-quarters of which were for interfaith couples. He said it is extremely important that rabbis be available for Jews who intermarry,\u00a0so they do not become alienated from Judaism.<\/p>\n<p>However, both Rabbi Milner and Rabbi Kurry said their intention is not to poach potential synagogue members. Rabbi Kurry said he intentionally steers couples towards Jewish institutions: \u201cI always say, \u2018go to the synagogue. This is where you belong.\u2019\u201d<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>When Ashley Howard, 33, and Ramit Singh, 35, married in September, they had two ceremonies \u2013 one Jewish, one Hindu. 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